Disclaimer:
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I'm not a licensed therapist nor a coach and I'm speaking based on my own experience(s). Also, from what I've learned through listening to podcasts and doing my research. Just a reminder, there is no shame in asking for help and consulting a therapist. Your mental health is an important part of your wellbeing. Please be kind and compassionate to yourself as you are with others.
After my accident last summer of 2019 that left me bedridden/in a wheelchair for almost three months... I decided to start writing about mental health. I started this with the hopes of helping others not feel so alone in their journey. If I can help save someone through this then it's worth a shot. Everything has a purpose right?
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In this blog, I focus more on narcissistic abuse. I vowed to myself that I will continue to speak my truth, and not stay silent. Hoping that it will encourage others to stand up for themselves as well. There are people who suffer in silence. They're afraid to speak due to victim shaming, and some are not even aware of they're being abused.
Narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths are very good at manipulating people. They will try to make you look and feel crazy. You will lose your true self with all the love bombing, gaslighting, trauma bonding, etc... Which makes it pretty hard to realize/see the abuse. Do yourself a favor and educate yourself about these things. You'll be surprised! I learned that this type of abuse is present in friendships/relationships, families, and even at your workplace. The more you know about all of this – you will be able to set healthy boundaries and have a more meaningful relationship(s).
Other than narcissistic abuse, I also talk about trauma. You see, before my accident, I fell into depression due to job exploitation at the salon I was training at. Then at the same time, I was experiencing PTSD symptoms from an abusive relationship with a narc (which ended in 2016). I was pretty surprised about the aftermath. I was not aware that it was possible to develop PTSD from a reltionship. I started experiencing all the effects right after I went no contact. You'll find out more about this on the articles I post here.
Moving on, all the series of events caused a chain reaction that triggered all my past traumas. And I hope you bear with me as I'm still in the healing process. The articles I publish here are raw and it takes me a bit of time since I still get triggers and flashbacks. Writing or sharing my story helps me and I hope it can do the same for you.
Okay, I will stop blabbering and just leave you with this note. Remember, it's okay not to be okay. You are not alone. Your story is powerful and you matter. Never lose hope. Keep fighting. You're a warrior,
Love and light,
Anika
"Be still and know that I am with you."
Psalm 46:10